With the holiday season and winter nearly upon us, families may be wondering how to make the best of the days that come ahead. This time of year is often filled with family rituals, celebrations, and get-togethers with loved ones. We look forward to and expect the season to look and feel a certain way. How, then, will we celebrate this year, still in the midst of a global pandemic? How can we make this time of year meaningful and enjoyable, even if it looks and feels different than in years past? How do we care for each other and ourselves during these times?
Be Proactive.
Given the state of uncertainty we are in, many families are tempted to wait and see how the COVID numbers look before making holiday plans. Given how attached many of us are to our unique rituals and celebrations, it’s understandable that we maintain hope that perhaps we’ll be able to see those things through as we normally would. However, delaying making decisions about how your holiday season may look may yield unwanted consequences. Take the time now to think about and plan what your holidays may look like, given the information you have on hand. Doing so will allow you and your children the time to brainstorm and acclimate yourselves to the idea of how you may be celebrating this year and even get excited about it!
Get creative.
Put on your thinking caps! (And have your children put theirs on too!) What new traditions might you want to explore during this winter/holiday season? Perhaps you’ll try out some new recipes at home, play new games, tackle a home project together, or think about different ways to be charitable.
Acknowledge feelings of disappointment.
It’s natural to feel disappointed that the holiday and winter season may look and feel different this year. Certain rituals, celebrations and get-togethers may not be possible, or may take on a different form, due to COVID. Know that it is okay to feel disappointed, frustrated, upset, angry, etc. and hear your children out if they express these frustrations too. Model some coping mechanisms, such as reaching out to friends and family via phone or video chat, even if you can’t see each other in person.
Practice self-care.
We’re often so busy taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves too. Self-care is so important, however, in meeting our own needs and avoiding burnout, especially during the holiday season when the pressure may be higher. Attending to physical self-care includes eating healthily, staying active and sleeping adequately, as much as possible. Emotional self-care means recognizing your limits and acknowledging that your emotions and reactions are likely typical and experienced by other parents and caregivers. Social care and connection involves keeping connected with trusted individuals such as friends and family, connecting with community and professional resources as needed, and maintaining a regular routine.
Keep Active.
As winter approaches, the days are getting shorter, and our children will have more time on their hands during the school vacation. Need some ideas to keep your children active and burn off some energy? You may find this resource helpful. Remember, regular physical activity has both physical and emotional health benefits!